Valentine’s Day is a special time to pull out a surprise for the person you love. The theme color is red, as it is in the culture. A large percentage of guys will dress red and sing red.
For our Luhya in-laws, on such a day, you will have to keep aside the stereotype that our girls have a big appetite for food, especially ugali, and remove from your program the fancy and expensive restaurants you’ve been desperately saving for.
Ask any Luhya girl and she will tell you that a simple but unique day out away from the usual noise is a great turn-on for her.
This year, consider a romantic gift that will make her heart leap for you, because Luhya girls have a soft spot for the subtlest of things. You may look for a less expensive necklace, bangle, or earrings. Many of them wouldn’t mind something as simple as a hairband band to keep their strands in place. Ask me!
If you have to deliver a flower to make the day complete, consider those fresh from the garden first. They are cheap and show effort and creativity, and Luhya girls are smart enough to notice that.
If words of affirmation are her love language, a well-designed card or a beautiful novel will do the trick. All you need to do is pour your heart into the card or book, express how much she means to you, and you will read her reaction.
Also, find a place (wild as it can be) to hang out and bond—some outdoor, fancy place away from the crowds. Here, you will reconnect with nature and listen to each other’s heartbeat. Luhya girls value attention, especially on such rare occasions, and, mind you, this will be the best moment to show commitment as a man.
While out, switch off your internet (not the best time to flirt with crushies and compare with other couples), eat special food, play games like little children and take selfies to document the day. Luhya girls have this traditional love for pictures, and that may stick forever.
Make sure you end the day early enough to keep it short, sweet, and rare. A long day will just erase your efforts, and your intentions to paint it red may backfire.
- Edited by Sam Oduor
Rose Masibo is a talented journalist who writes light-moment, celebrity, entertainment and current affairs stories for the Western Kenya Times.