Hae Nao Mih,
My name is Tabitha Wanjiru. I am 26. I am growing concerned about the number of bullets my husband is shooting nowadays. He has also frustratingly lost interest in our intimacy. I feel our marriage of three years is at stake with this daunting fact. What can I do?
Thanks for confiding in me for help. Don’t worry, this is a problem many couples go through but find a solution to when they sit down on it.
Some facts here: Low sperm count means decreased libido. When a man has decreased libido, he loses morale in sex and even avoids sex and sexual activity.
I agree with you that sex is important in a romantic relationship and in your marriage, for that matter. Sex is the bond that repairs the wear and tear of life because all relationships have conflicts and turmoil. Sex brings you back together and helps you feel like you are able to connect and love again.
In your case here, that’s an easy thing to handle as a woman. He may be at a loss as to why he is producing less of that essential liquid and even insecure enough to tell you that he has a problem. It is now your role to speak to his spirit and make him agree that he needs help.
There are many successful marriages with men who have low sperm counts. There are also many ways of correcting the problem.
First, you can seek the help of a specialist in medical surgery or someone conversant with sexual health. You can also try eating foods high in libido, such as bananas, apples, beef, pork, and pumpkin seeds.
Apart from that, help him adapt to a healthier lifestyle, such as quitting drinking and smoking if he does, switching off the hot shower, minimizing the sugar in his food, and making a subscription to the nearest gym.
As you work on that, look at your relationship outside your bedroom. What type of man is he? Caring, loving, respectful? This will make you have a positive attitude towards him and it will, surprisingly, boost his mood and hence help increase his sexual drive.
Naomi Makassi from Kitale, Trans Nzoia County, is a graduate of Rongo University who finds passion in helping young adults build successful relationships through writing.