Hello, Nao Mih,
Kindly hide my identity. I am 23 and I have been seeing a married man aged 42, besides my boyfriend. The man recently discovered that I have a boyfriend, and he has been so mad at me. He is now asking me to dump my 2-year boyfriend and remain faithful to him, or else he will leave me. I am two months pregnant with him already. He also supports me financially because my boyfriend and I are not employed. I don’t feel like I want to let go of my boyfriend. What can I do?
Honestly, this is a tight one. Is your mubaba aware that you’re pregnant? If he doesn’t know, please be quick to summon him for an emergency meeting and break the news to him.
First, agree with him on how the baby is going to be taken care of while you sort out your relationship issues.
As for your boyfriend, you need to be honest with him. Withholding the news from him is quite selfish and insensitive. As much as you don’t want him to go, he is the one to decide if he is ready to stay with a woman who cheated and had a baby with another man.
I know this sucks, but it is time you take full responsibility for your actions. If he decides to find healing elsewhere, please let him go. People, especially men, find it difficult to stay in relationships they have been cheated on.
You’ll then have to decide if you want to be a second wife or remain a side chick. You can still decide to break up with your mubaba and find another way of helping the child as you collect yourself.
Take this as a good reminder to always remain true to the person who gives you their all, and to keep off married men.
Naomi Makassi from Kitale, Trans Nzoia County, is a graduate of Rongo University who finds passion in helping young adults build successful relationships through writing.